Wondering Who You Are

In exploring her husband's memory loss, Sonya Lea’s memoir is a powerful story of perseverance.

By Sonya Lea Read by Sonya Lea Biographies & Memoirs / Family Life / Nonfiction English, Unabridged 9h 10m Sell Sheet Also available on
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8 Audio CDs July 13, 2015 $49.99 $39.99 9781681412047 Add to Cart
1 MP3 CDs July 13, 2015 $29.99 $19.99 9781681412085 Add to Cart
							In the twenty-third year of their marriage, Sonya Lea’s husband, Richard, went in for surgery to treat a rare appendix cancer. When he came out, he had no recollection of their life together: how they met, their wedding day, the births of their two children. All of it was gone, along with the rockier parts of their past - her drinking, his anger. Richard could now hardly speak, emote, or create memories from moment to moment. Who he’d been no longer was. Wondering Who You Are braids the story of Sonya and Richard’s relationship, those memories that he could no longer conjure, together with his fateful days in the hospital, and through a marriage no longer grounded on decades of shared experience.

Starred Review. "(Lea's) prose is elegant, and her reading is heartfelt and professional. This inspiring audio will touch listeners with its compassion and grace." - Booklist (audio review)

Starred review. "[Lea’s] stunning account of [Richard’s] recovery efforts and her willful refusal to give up on marriage to the stranger occupying her husband’s body is fantastically heartfelt and inspiring." - Booklist (book review)

"In this brave, inspiring memoir [Lea] recounts the losses, and what it took to rebuild." - People Magazine

"An engrossing journey of self-discovery and fierce devotion" - Kirkus Review

"An intense and accomplished memoir... This sweet, erotic, wrenching story asks quintessential questions about memory, the constructed self, and love - its challenges and deep compensations." - Priscilla Long, author of The Writer’s Portable Mentor

"An incredibly intimate and honest memoir, Wondering Who You Are shows more vividly than any work of nonfiction I’ve read in years the endlessly complex and delicate nature of identity. In particular, the book movingly reveals how mutable all relationships are, how metamorphosis on one side of a partnership necessitates metamorphosis on the other - we are all constantly changing." - Peter Mountford, author of The Dismal Science

"Sonya Lea’s Wondering Who You Are is an extraordinary story. A wrenching, deeply honest exploration of love and identity that made me question my ideas about memory, about gender, about marriage and family and faith. About the whole human rigmarole. Her story does what the best stories do: it made me think about life in an entirely new way." - Suzanne Morrison, author of Yoga Bitch

"This meditation on love and loss left me filled with wonder. Sonya Lea considers every possibility - the full span of understanding, from science to shamans to sex - in an effort to rediscover her husband and, in the process, what makes us uniquely human: our memories of who we are. Words like 'honest' and 'intimate' don’t even begin to describe this remarkable journey." - Brian Castner, author of The Long Walk

"Sonya Lea tells her extraordinary story extraordinarily well. She has a rare ability to bring readers to the places where love and sex intermingle, collide, or go their separate ways. Wondering Who Your Are is an amazing accomplishment. Every page sparkles with wisdom, candor, insight, and love." - Chris Ryan - Author of Sex at Dawn